Supporting Your Child with School Anxiety

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Practical guidance for UK parents and carers

I have created another free guide for parents/c arers to download and use. When a child is struggling to attend school, the problem is rarely solved by simply telling them they must go in.

School anxiety can appear as tears, anger, shutdown, physical symptoms, sleepless nights, difficult mornings or complete refusal. Some children manage to enter school and appear fine, only to fall apart when they return home.

This practical guide helps you look beyond the behaviour, identify what may be making school feel unsafe or overwhelming and take clear, manageable action.

Inside the guide

You will find:

  • Signs of school anxiety across different ages

  • Possible reasons behind distress and non-attendance

  • Questions to help you identify patterns and pressure points

  • Practical steps for difficult mornings and recovery after school

  • Ways to listen without turning every conversation into an interrogation

  • Reasonable adjustments that may reduce anxiety in school

  • Parent-teacher conversation scripts

  • Questions to ask the teacher, SENCo or pastoral team

  • Space to record concerns, agreed actions and review dates

  • Guidance on what to do when support is vague or progress stalls

This guide will help you

  • Describe what is happening clearly

  • Separate anxiety from assumptions about behaviour

  • Gather useful information from home and school

  • Prepare for a constructive school meeting

  • Ask for specific support rather than being told to wait and see

  • Keep your child’s experience at the centre of decisions

Who is it for?

This guide is for parents and carers of children and young people experiencing anxiety connected with school, including those with ADHD, autism, SEND, EBSA or no diagnosis at all.

You do not need to wait for a diagnosis before discussing your child’s needs or asking school what support can be put in place.

What this guide is not

This is practical general guidance, not individual legal advice, a diagnosis or a treatment plan. The conversation scripts are examples to adapt to your child, school and circumstances.

Education systems and legal duties differ across the UK. Year groups and statutory references within the guide follow England unless stated otherwise.

Free download

Download the guide, choose the section that matches what is happening now and begin with one action. You do not need to solve everything in one meeting.

Still unsure what to do next?
If you've spotted a pattern but don't know what to ask school for, book a Focused Parent Session.

Practical guidance for UK parents and carers

I have created another free guide for parents/c arers to download and use. When a child is struggling to attend school, the problem is rarely solved by simply telling them they must go in.

School anxiety can appear as tears, anger, shutdown, physical symptoms, sleepless nights, difficult mornings or complete refusal. Some children manage to enter school and appear fine, only to fall apart when they return home.

This practical guide helps you look beyond the behaviour, identify what may be making school feel unsafe or overwhelming and take clear, manageable action.

Inside the guide

You will find:

  • Signs of school anxiety across different ages

  • Possible reasons behind distress and non-attendance

  • Questions to help you identify patterns and pressure points

  • Practical steps for difficult mornings and recovery after school

  • Ways to listen without turning every conversation into an interrogation

  • Reasonable adjustments that may reduce anxiety in school

  • Parent-teacher conversation scripts

  • Questions to ask the teacher, SENCo or pastoral team

  • Space to record concerns, agreed actions and review dates

  • Guidance on what to do when support is vague or progress stalls

This guide will help you

  • Describe what is happening clearly

  • Separate anxiety from assumptions about behaviour

  • Gather useful information from home and school

  • Prepare for a constructive school meeting

  • Ask for specific support rather than being told to wait and see

  • Keep your child’s experience at the centre of decisions

Who is it for?

This guide is for parents and carers of children and young people experiencing anxiety connected with school, including those with ADHD, autism, SEND, EBSA or no diagnosis at all.

You do not need to wait for a diagnosis before discussing your child’s needs or asking school what support can be put in place.

What this guide is not

This is practical general guidance, not individual legal advice, a diagnosis or a treatment plan. The conversation scripts are examples to adapt to your child, school and circumstances.

Education systems and legal duties differ across the UK. Year groups and statutory references within the guide follow England unless stated otherwise.

Free download

Download the guide, choose the section that matches what is happening now and begin with one action. You do not need to solve everything in one meeting.

Still unsure what to do next?
If you've spotted a pattern but don't know what to ask school for, book a Focused Parent Session.

Download the Parent Pattern Snapshot to help you gather those thoughts. Start with one small step. Parent Pattern Snapshot. It is a free guide.

A simple starting point when you know something is happening but can’t yet see the pattern clearly. It helps you gather what you are noticing, compare home and school, spot possible triggers, and work out what to ask next.

What you’ll get

  • A clearer picture of what is happening

  • Prompts to spot when and where difficulties show up

  • Space to compare what school sees with what happens at home

  • Clues to possible triggers, demands and pressure points

  • A simple way to record what helps and what makes things harder

  • Questions to take into conversations with school, the SENCo or your GP

  • A final “what do I ask next?” page so you are not left with a pile of notes and no plan

How I can help you and your family further

Choose support for you, your school conversations or your child. You have to start somewhere. Start with a free 15 minute call.

Free 15-minute introductory call with ADHD in Practice
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A calm, no-pressure conversation giving you time to explain what is happening and work out what your next step could be.

This call is for parents, grandparents and carers of children with any diagnosed or suspected SEND—not only ADHD.

Your child may be experiencing difficulties connected with autism, dyslexia, dyscalculia, anxiety, sensory needs, communication, learning, school attendance, emotional regulation or executive functioning. They may have several overlapping needs, or no diagnosis at all.

Children’s needs rarely arrive in neat, separate boxes. ADHD may overlap with autism, dyslexia, anxiety or sensory differences. A dyslexic child may also experience frustration, emotional overwhelm, shutdowns or meltdowns when learning demands repeatedly exceed the support available.

This is not a sales call. There is no hard pitch, no awkward pressure and absolutely no “book before midnight” nonsense.

During the call, we can talk about your main concern which could be:

  • what is worrying you most right now;

  • what is happening at home, at school or both;

  • the difficulties or patterns you have noticed;

  • whether learning needs, masking, anxiety, sensory overload or emotional regulation may be part of the picture;

  • questions you may need to ask school, your GP, CAMHS or an assessment service;

  • which SEND, NHS or school-support pathway may be worth exploring;

  • whether ADHD in Practice is the right fit for your family.

Your child may already have a diagnosis, be waiting for an assessment or simply have you thinking, “Something isn’t adding up.”

You do not need to arrive knowing the correct terminology. You do not need to decide whether it is ADHD, autism, dyslexia or something else before speaking to me.

Just tell me what is happening. We can begin there.

BOOK A FREE 15-MINUTE CALL

Not sure what kind of help you need yet?

Start with a free 15-minute introductory call.

Tell me what is happening, what you are worried about and where you feel stuck. I’ll help you work out whether one of my services is the right next step for your family.

Book your free 15-minute call

Already know the problem you need help with?

Book a Focused Parent Session.

This is a 60-minute session for one clearly defined issue. We focus on the problem in front of you, work through what may be happening and identify practical next steps you can actually use.

£135 | 60 minutes | One issue | Clear next steps

Book a Focused Parent Session.

Focused Parent Session One issue. One hour. Clearer next steps.
£135.00

Sometimes you do not need a full review of everything.

You may have one problem that keeps circling in your head.

  • Perhaps mornings are becoming impossible.

  • Perhaps your child is falling apart after school.

  • Perhaps school keeps saying they are fine.

  • Perhaps you have a meeting coming up and you are not sure what to ask for.

  • Perhaps you are stuck between “wait and see” and “something needs to change”.

The Focused Parent Session is designed for exactly that.

This is a practical 60-minute session centred on one clearly defined issue. Zoom or telephone call.

We will look at what is happening, what may be underneath it, what has already been tried and what would be most useful to do next.

This is not a full document review, EHCP review or wider case analysis.

It is a focused space to stop going round in circles and work out the next sensible step.

This may be right for you if...

You are dealing with one main concern and need help thinking it through.

That might be school morning distress, after-school dysregulation, masking, friendship difficulties, a difficult school conversation, reduced attendance, behaviour that does not make sense or simply not knowing what to do next.

You may already have spoken to school and still feel unclear.

You may have received lots of advice but no actual plan.

Or you may simply need an experienced outside view to help you separate what matters now from everything else competing for your attention.

What the session includes

  • Before the session, you will be asked to identify the one issue you most want help with and provide a short summary of what has been happening.

  • During the session we will explore the pattern, identify what may be contributing to the difficulty and look at what is realistic for home and school.

  • The focus is practical.

  • Not pages of theory.

  • Not another list of things you “should” be doing.

  • We will work towards a small number of useful next steps that fit your child and your situation.

  • After the session, you will receive a brief written action summary so you are not left trying to remember everything we discussed.

You will leave with

  • A clearer understanding of what may be happening.

  • A better idea of what needs attention first.

  • A small number of practical next steps.

  • Clearer wording for what to say or ask if school is involved.

  • And, importantly, less of that feeling of:

  • “I know something is not right, but I do not know what to do with it.”

This session is not designed for

  • Extensive document review.

  • EHCP evidence analysis.

  • Appeal preparation.

  • Complex multi-agency cases.

  • Or situations where several issues need to be worked through in depth.

If your situation is broader or more complex, the full Parent Clarity Consultation is likely to be the better fit.

Focused Parent Session

60 minutes

£135

Includes a brief written action summary after the session.

One issue.

One clear focus.

One practical way forward.

Online parent support across the UK, school and EHCP guidance focuses on England.