ADHD Guides and Toolkits for UK Parents

Something does not add up, but you cannot quite explain why

You may be seeing difficult school mornings, after-school meltdowns, shutdowns, anxiety, friendship problems, sensory overload, behaviour changes or a growing gap between what school sees and what happens at home.

The Parent Pattern Snapshot helps you gather those pieces in one place.

It is not a diagnosis tool and it is not a behaviour chart.

It is designed to help you notice what keeps happening, when it happens, what may be increasing the difficulty, what appears to help, and what questions may be useful to ask next.

What you will get

• A clearer picture of what is happening

• Prompts to spot when and where difficulties show up

• Space to compare what school sees with what happens at home

• Clues to possible triggers, demands and pressure points

• A simple way to record what helps and what makes things harder

• Questions to take into conversations with school, the SENCo or your GP

• A final “What do I need to ask next?” section to help you move from noticing to action

Who is it for?

This guide may be useful if:

• you know something is not quite right but cannot clearly explain the pattern

• school says your child is fine, but home sees something very different

• you are preparing to speak to a teacher, SENCo, GP or other professional

• your child is struggling with school, behaviour, emotions, learning, friendships or sensory demands

• you are waiting for assessment and want to start gathering useful information now

• you do not yet know whether ADHD, autism, dyslexia, anxiety, sensory differences or another SEND need may be involved

What this guide is not

The Parent Pattern Snapshot does not diagnose ADHD, autism, dyslexia or any other condition.

It does not replace professional assessment, medical advice or school-based support.

Its purpose is simpler and more practical:

to help you notice patterns clearly enough to have better conversations and ask better questions.

How to use it

Complete it over several days rather than trying to remember everything at once.

Look for repetition.

Notice what happens before the difficulty, what your child does, what happens afterwards, and whether the same triggers or demands keep appearing.

Then use the final page to prepare for your next conversation with school, the SENCo, GP or another professional.

A practical UK checklist to help parents gather clear, real-life evidence before a school meeting, referral or ADHD assessment. Record patterns, impact, support needs and what helps across home, school and daily life. This is not a symptom quiz and cannot diagnose ADHD.

Has school said, “We’ll monitor it,” without explaining what will be monitored, what support will happen or when anyone will review it?

The free “We’ll Monitor It” Parent Response Sheet helps UK parents, grandparents and carers turn a vague promise into a practical, reviewable plan.

Created for families navigating ADHD, autism, dyslexia, dyscalculia, anxiety, sensory needs, emotional regulation, attendance difficulties and wider SEND concerns.

The resource includes:

• a school-meeting preparation sheet;

• questions to ask before the meeting ends;

• an actions and responsibilities record;

• space to record support and adjustments;

• a review-date planner;

• child-voice prompts;

• home and school evidence logs;

• follow-up email wording;

• guidance about what to do if concerns continue.

Your child does not need a diagnosis before you can raise concerns or ask school to respond to identified needs.

Free download • UK-focused • Practical and easy to use

The exact words to use when you walk into that meeting, so you leave with a plan instead of a "we'll monitor it."

You've got the diagnosis. Now you need the school to actually do something with it. This is the word-for-word script for the support meeting: what to say, what to ask for, and how to handle "he seems fine in class" without losing your thread or your nerve.

Free example.

This guide is written for UK parents navigating the NHS ADHD assessment pathway. Everything in here is grounded in UK government guidance, the SEND Code of Practice 2015, and the Children and Families Act 2014.

ADHD and the School Day: What It Really Costs Your Child Aged 6–8 Your child comes home and falls apart. School says they're fine. You know something is wrong. Both of you are seeing something real. This guide draws on four voices —

Barkley's neuroscience, Dr Daniel Weisberg's UK clinical expertise, Hester Grainger's lived experience.

A reset plan for parents whose child holds it together at school and explodes at home. If your child walks out of school looking “fine” and falls apart over shoes, snacks, homework, noise, questions or the wrong cup, this guide gives you a calm starting point for the first 30 minutes after school.

Inside you’ll get: what to do before pickup

This guide covers the middle of primary school, roughly Year 4 to Year 5. It picks up where the early-years guide left off, because ADHD does not stay still. It changes shape as the demands change, and the demands change a great deal around now. Where a point rests on research, you will find a short note showing where it comes from.

What it looks like. At this age, ADHD often looks like the child who can't sit on the carpet, blurts out, bounces off the walls, or melts down over small things. Or the quiet one who drifts off and gets missed. It gets called naughty, immature or "a handful." It's usually none of those.

What it feels like. Inside, it's a brain with everything turned up at once and no off switch. Big feelings that arrive fast and hard. Knowing the rule but not being able to do it in the moment. Working twice as hard as everyone else, and still being told to try harder.

That gap, between how it looks and how it feels, is where so many little ones get missed.

The 3:45pm Survival Guide is a practical, no-nonsense resource for parents of children with ADHD who seem to hold it together all day at school and then fall apart the moment they get home.

Autism in the Early Years: A Brief Guide for ParentsNursery, reception, and where to find real advice

You've noticed something. Maybe nursery has too. And now you're stuck between "it's probably nothing" and "I need to know who to actually ring."

This is a short, practical guide for parents standing at the start of that conversation — before a diagnosis, sometimes before you're even sure a diagnosis is where this is heading.

Inside, you'll find:

What tends to prompt this conversation (without the checklist-anxiety)

Exactly who you can talk to — health visitor, GP, nursery SENCo, community paediatrician, SALT, Portage, and more — and what each one can actually do

What your nursery is obliged to offer, with or without a diagnosis

How to handle the move into Reception, including funding and support you might not know to ask for

Where to find advice that isn't a forum post at 2am — the National Autistic Society, IPSEA, your local SENDIASS, and more

Written by a former SENCo of 34 years who's since sat on the other side of the table as a parent. No jargon for jargon's sake, no false reassurance, no waiting for a label before you're allowed to ask for help.

Instant download.

Work out whether your child’s behaviour is demand overload, sensory overwhelm, transition panic, masking collapse, hunger, tiredness, anxiety or executive function overload — before everyone ends up crying in the hallway.